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munching
You may or may not remember this, but I host a munch here in my little town as part of our overall group, White Mountain Different Strokes. The group has been in existance for 4 years and growing slowly, but surely. We have quality, not quantity, and I find that that’s extremely important in such a large geographic area.
Anyways, my munch reached it’s 2nd anniversary this month and we gathered as usual. Now, it’s important to note the following. I am the only one FROM my town that attends this munch. Everyone else must travel. A good friend of mine, who doesn’t come all the time, drove well over an hour. She & her husband host another of our munches, which has actually been going on longer and is just as popular. Unfortunately, it’s 90 minutes away, so I don’t get to it often enough.
Another friend nearly an hour. Some were closer, but none right in town. So that means they have to take time not only to spend there, but getting there and getting home. I take comfort in the fact that they feel it’s worth the drive.
We had a great time. Everyone was friendly, as is usual, and very warm & open to the newbie, who enjoyed himself too. Especially since he’s so easy to “scare” with tales of dungeons and implements 
During and after, people congratulated me on the success of the munch, and even this morning, I received a couple of emails saying thanks for my work in making this munch so much fun. What I wrote back, though, was this: It isn’t ME. It’s everyone who makes the journey. If it weren’t for you guys, I’d just be a chick sitting in a resturant”.
It’s so true. It’s so important to get out and support your kink community. Otherwise, you have none. You don’t have to be a figure-head in your town. We’ve been meeting in this same place for 2 years. No one would ever guess who we really are. We’re just regular customers who pay our tabs, tip well and enjoy the space.
But so many people stay home. They don’t make the trek, whether it’s down the street or down the highway. They stay within, keeping their kink to themselves, which I can totally understand. But what they’re missing, and as a result, failing to provide, is the kinship that comes from being with like-minded people who don’t think you’ve lost your mind 
Ok, so that’s my sermon for today. If you’ve never been to a munch, find one. It’s easy to do a search for your town and MUNCH or bdsm.
I’ve talked to lots of people who were afraid to attend a munch for fear of meeting someone they knew there. If you’re one of those people, go visit the link I put above for WMDS and see what I’ve had to say about that there.
Support your community!
1 comment August 3, 2005
where are all the dommes?
So, I’ve been reading and exploring blogs now for about 2 months or so. I’ve “met” some very strange and rather fascinating people. Some that I might NOT want to meet in real life, but most I would love to meet for coffee… *EG* some a bit more.
What I don’t understand, though, is where are all the DOMINANT women? You know – the ones that DO the hittin , not the hittees? It seems that this blogger atmosphere is full to the brim with Domestic Discipline couples, but very, very few actual D/s couples where the FEMALE is the Dominant one. I think I’ve run into TWO, and one I only buy shares in her blog in because she doesn’t really come offf to me as a Domme, but more as a porn starlet masquerading as a Domme because that’s what sells. Mistress Matisse’s blog is a riot and an absolute enjoyment to read… but geez… are we really the only TWO? LOL
Scary.
Of course, I do think it’s neat that both She & I share a love of photography. Wonder if her neighbors are as neurotic as mine LOL
So where are the rest??
Add comment June 13, 2005
