A Kinky Woman's Guide to the Universe

Well, that bites

ladycalliah — Wed, 10 Oct 2007 15:01:44 +0000

I bought my domain and then paid my $10 to have wordpress redirect to my new domain – except that isn’t what they DO – they redirect my domain to here – which isn’t what I wanted – dammit. So please, change your bookmarks and feeds to LadyCalliah.com as soon as possible, because I will be closing this blog at the end of October. Thanks for your help & support.

Who am I missing?

ladycalliah — Sat, 29 Sep 2007 21:56:57 +0000

Ok, so admittedly I’ve been a bad blogger. I haven’t been updating much, and I haven’t been reading much. I was working on the new site today and went through my blogrolling blog and about 1/2 of those old bloggers I used to read are GONE. I’m sure, though, that they’ve been replaced by many, many new bloggers, so tell me – who are you reading and why? Thanks

problems

ladycalliah — Mon, 17 Sep 2007 10:24:01 +0000

In August of 2002, I was working full time at Walmart in the grill. This entailed the usual stuff, like cooking, taking orders, and cleaning. One night, I was washing the floor (industrial size mop) and felt my back wretch. It hurt but I kept going, and for a few days it remained sore. Finally unable to handle the pain after working all day, I came home and was going to take a muscle relaxer but because my periods were never regular, I decided to take a pregnancy test, just to make sure it was safe to take the muscle relaxer.

It was then & there that I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter.

I continued working and in October/November, realized that a portion of my face was going numb. Then it was my arm. I called my OB who told me to see my regular MD. I went to see her and she suggested that perhaps there were problems with my discs in my neck/back, particularly since two areas were affected – both upper body and now, my leg as well. She suggested that I try physical therapy, and that after I had the baby, we’d get an MRI to see what was going on. SO I went for physical therapy, but they were limited with what they could do because I was pregnant. It didn’t do any good, and I stopped going. The numbness continued, and after I had the baby in April, I went back to my dr. who had by then changed her tune, saying it was probably the baby sitting in a bad spot, and that the numbness would go away.

Then I lost my health insurance (the State only covers you up to 8 weeks post partum)

5 years later, the numbness remains and has spread to most areas of my body. It’s not really a NUMBNESS as in pins & needles but more of a loss of sensation, like I’m wearing a 2^nd skin.

Earlier this year, we finally got health insurance again and after I recovered from having my son, I went to another Dr. to talk about this loss of sensation. She wanted to see if we could figure it out as non-invasively as possible and told me to take some B12, as sometimes a lack of B12 would cause circulatory problems. It didn’t help. Then I hurt my neck/back (by walking up the stairs) and she sent me for xrays. The xray showed that I have a “straightening in the natural curvature” of my neck, and she sent me to a chiropractor. The chiropractor adjusted me a few times and wound up setting off problems in my teeth! So I stopped seeing him and worked on getting my teeth fixed. But from then on, my neck hurt pretty much all the time. Finally, my teeth problems were fixed for the most part, I went back to my Dr. to talk about my l-o-s again and she finally decided to get an MRI of my neck (and my brain). The day of, I found out that they’d need to inject me with dye to do my brain so I backed out of that one because I’m nursing my son. But I went ahead and had my neck done. Last week, she called to tell me that I have 3 bulging discs in my neck (c3/4, c5/6 and c6/7), and that one appears to be moving laterally (i.e. towards my spinal cord), so she was getting me a referral to a neurosurgeon at Dartmouth Medical Center because she feared if we let it go too long, there’d be permanent damage.

In the interim weeks since I saw the Dr., I’ve had a major increase in pain in my arms and neck, and my lower back (sacral/sciatic) is almost constant a well. I’ve also developed what I call a twitch. Just about any time I am in a laying down position, whether on my side or back, after just a minute or two, some area of my body will jump, like a muscle spasm. It might be my arm, finger, shoulder, the muscles in my back, my knee, thigh, calf. It’s bizarre to say the least and reminds me of Michael J Fox, which of course then scares me. I reported these changes to the Dr. last week, who relayed back that she thought maybe one of the discs might be “impinging” on the cord.

The only thing I take for the pain is ibuprofen and it doesn’t actually do anything, so I just haven’t bothered to take anything. I have been trying to take it easy, but that’s not easy with 3 kids and a house to take care of. For the last several days, I’ve been getting up at 5am just because I can’t go back to sleep after my son finishes nursing.

So today, I’m waiting (still) for a call from Dartmouth telling me when my appointment is to go talk with this Dr. who will look at my films and examine me and figure this out, hopefully.

I need some good vibes sent my way because I’m finding it hard to stay upbeat, to say the least. It’s hard to keep the “what-if’s” at bay, and I cannot get the image of the chiropractor’s “adjustments” out of my head, now knowing what I know about my spinal cord being “impinged”.

I’ll be working on finishing up the new site this week, barring any unscheduled trips to the OR.

Templates

ladycalliah — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:05:31 +0000

I’ve finally learned how to make word press templates, so I’m now on the lookout for some cool *free* graphics to use for lifestyle-themed blogs.

yet another reason why I’m proud to be an American (most of the time)

ladycalliah — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 13:27:34 +0000

China to launch Virtual Web Patrols

In other news, still working on the new domain. I learned how to make my own wordpress themes this weekend, so now I can fix the one I like and will WHEN I GET 30 MINUTES TO MYSELF. Not an easy task, when you’re the head EVERYTHING. Thanks to all 3 of you who asked to see a preview, though. I feel loved. heh.

Gone & done it (again)

ladycalliah — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 18:32:30 +0000

I’ve registered my domain *FINALLY* and have moved my blog to it’s final resting place.

However, I’m not done tweaking and playing (with the theme, not myself), so I haven’t “opened” it officially. But if you want a peek, let me know in comments

THIS is natural selection at it’s finest.

ladycalliah — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 11:53:05 +0000

Bears eat man at Beer Festival

product reviews?

ladycalliah — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:39:24 +0000

Over on my family blog, I get emails from time to time from ppl wanting me to send me something – a product they sell, and for me to blog about it on my blog.

How come that never happens over here? LOL How come no one ever emails me with a great new lube or fantastic new toy that they want reviewed? HuH?? LOL

dammit.

Toy Recall

ladycalliah — Thu, 16 Aug 2007 18:40:41 +0000

I wonder what would happen if there was a massive toy recall like Mattel‘s had to announce, but it was a sex toy? LOL I wonder how many people would actually send theirs back in for a replacement?

Maturity

ladycalliah — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 15:07:29 +0000

I suppose that after 12 years, it’s more than obvious that what may have been there once, a very long time ago is not there anymore with my ex-husband. But what I’ve come to realize in just the last few days is how little there ever really was, when I compare my relationship to my (now) hubby with what I recall I had with ex.

It just amazes me that I was ever attracted to him at all. LOL

Because now he … and I don’t mean this to sound mean, but he repulses me LOL Time just hasn’t been good to him (not that I’m saying in ANY way that it’s been good to me either), but it’s not just the physical changes. I guess it’s just really shown me how much better suited I am to my favorite ma’an (even with his challenging faults LOL) and how much I love him, perhaps because of those faults. Even after 12 years, his breath on my neck still gives me shivers. Even after 12 years, a single touch and I’m like jello. Maybe not ALL THE TIME – because of my own physical issues – but emotionally, I’m still so much more HIS than I ever was the other guy.

Maybe it’s a matter of maturity. I grew up with the other guy, and so for that time in my life, that was ok. But growing up with someone and growing old with someone are two totally different things, and I’m so very very glad that I got them in the right order. LOL

So for all my bitching and complaining about my hubby, I also have to say how much he still knocks my socks off in all the right ways (except when he’s pissing me off LOL)

Hey, can you tell the Zoloft is working? LOL

and on a totally separate note – can someone tell me what the hell would have been the attraction between Bill and Nicki on Big Love?? PLEASE? LOL

and this is the description for this week’s episode – can someone tell me when they started letting 4th graders write for them?

Rebuffed by Barb, Bill asks Margene to accompany him to a Bar Owner’s trade convention. But when how will Bill justify Margene presence when they run into a old acquantance there?